Wedding planning would not be as enjoyable without the help from your friends, or for better terms: Bridesmaids. Brides choose their bridesmaids based on the amount of time they have known each other, the love they have for one another, and the help that they can provide in wedding planning. Bridesmaids even get to represent the wedding by promoting the color scheme and theme of the wedding by standing beside the bride. That means that bridesmaids are to wear similar dresses for aesthetic and traditional purposes.
A common debate that brides all over share is wondering whether matching is an outdated tradition or if it is a necessity? How is one to decide whether they want their childhood friend to match a newer friend that do not even know each other yet. How can a bride trust that the dresses picked out individually will not be so off that it becomes distracting to guests?
Who decides what someone else will be wearing? Here is a breakdown of the pros and cons of having your bridesmaids’ dresses match.
To Match: Imagine giving bridesmaids the liberty to choose their own dress as long as they honor the “teal” color theme, then finding a mix of blue, mint, and periwinkle dresses? That is a nightmare that no bride should encounter. Uniformity is aesthetically pleasing because it matches the centerpieces, table runners, and décor. It gives balance for photographs that the newlyweds want to enjoy for a lifetime.
Not to Match: While color matching can be aesthetically pleasing, some brides like to be creative and spontaneous with their theme choices. There are ways to not match and still look complementary to one another for balance and organization. Many brides like to have their bridesmaids match with different fabrics types. Different fabrics have different stretches and sizing. You can still honor the “teal” color theme with some dresses being lace, satin, or chiffon.
To Match: A wedding is a perfect time to honor traditions from all sides of the family. Matching dresses is a universal custom that most weddings honor. A wonderful way to recognize this is to have bridesmaids wear “something blue” with blue dresses.
Not to Match: Marriage is all about becoming one and starting a new chapter in your lives. Starting new traditions can be exciting and it could begin with the way you portray your wedding theme. Not everything has to be perfect on your wedding day. A variety of flowers for your bouquet, a mix of square and roundtables, and an elegant mix of blush-pink with mauve can make a bold and symbolic statement.
To Match: Shopping in bulk is an option that a bride can utilize when buying big quantities of the same dress. Some brides prefer to only dedicate one day to bridesmaid shopping because there is much more to do when preparing for a wedding. When the bride already has one dress picked out, all she needs to do is join her bridesmaids in the first fitting to introduce the dress to them. After all, the wedding is about the bride first so valuing her time is a must!
Not to Match: Travel time and fitting scheduling do not have to be a factor when a bridesmaid gets to choose their own dress. If the color scheme is important, it is advised to provide a color palette key to the bridesmaids for them to know where to aim in their private shopping time. The liberty to pick out a dress of choice at own times takes away the hassle for out-of-town bridesmaids to travel to the boutique at one given date.
To Match: A wedding is all about the bride and groom. They get to decide all the details about their big day, including the bridesmaid dresses. While bridesmaid input is important to make sure that they are comfortable with the decisions, a bride’s morale is the most important. Making adjustments to the wedding plan that the bride has dreamed of since she was a little girl is not a good way to start the wedding journey. It is the bridesmaids’ duty to make the bride feel special, and that includes wearing the dress that she envisioned from the start.
Not to Match: One size does not fit all, and that also applies for dress cuts and styles. It is not fun for the bride to have to deal with complaints about mustard not being their color or that low “V” cuts are uncomfortable to wear because of chest exposure. Preference complaints are not the only reason why morale can be lowered. Some dress cuts do not fit a certain body type no matter what size they try on. Side zippers don’t work for wide waists, strapless dresses do not stay up for larger chests, and mermaid hems might not slip on for bigger hips. When bridesmaids get to choose their own dress, they can adjust to their body type and feel more comfortable representing the bride in a better mood.
Honoring traditions, making new ones, and keeping the bride and bridesmaids happy are all reasons to decide whether to have bridesmaids match or not. What is vital to remember is to follow your heart and prioritize what is the most important for a special day that no one will ever forget. There are ways to be creative and find a balance between all factors to complete a dream wedding.